Dealing With A Sad Day.... Especially On Your Period
Periods and PMS suck. Feeling emotional, sad and out of control is something I know all too well. This past week was a mental rollercoaster ride for me. I was down and my mind was spinning out of control. Even yoga and meditation didn't help. Most days, I felt like I wanted to break down and cry... and I did. Some days I felt like I was literally going to lose my shit. Currently, I am questioning if I am ever going to feel better.
The truth is, we all have our good and bad days with or without our periods. Human emotion is natural. And we shouldn't have to hide from it. But, we can't always put out best face forward. And I'm here to give you a few tips and tell you what I've learned when it all feels like too much to handle.
Forgive yourself. First and foremost, you're not being of service to yourself or others if you're beating yourself up about the way you are acting and or thinking. Jealousy, anger, sadness, frustration... we've all been there. And we will all be there again. Be gentle with yourself. Let yourself feel the emotions. It's worse to hold them inside now and then explode on someone later. Or even worse.... to hold them in and fight an internal battle with yourself. Don't beat yourself up for feeling the way you do. This to shall pass.
Feel and let go. My boyfriend had to talk me off the ledge a few times this weekend. My crazy was coming out all over the place and I started crying. He told me not to beat myself up for the way I was feeling. Instead, recognize it and let it go. Just like thoughts in meditation. We let our thoughts go and concentrate on our breaths. I started to put this tool into action and it's working. We can't stop ourselves from thinking a certain way or even sometimes behaving a certain way, especially when we are hormonal. So let yourself feel however you feel and then just let it go. Don't hang onto your emotional and defiantly don't judge yourself for having them.
Surround yourself with friends that make you laugh. A good belly laugh is sometimes all I need when I am hormonal and emotional. Be around people who make you smile and bring out the best in you. Have fun. Be playful. Don't take life so seriously. Connect with like-minded people! I had a beautiful brunch with some like-minded ladies this weekend and it got me out of my funk and feeling like myself again! Don't be afraid to reach out when you need it.
Take some time alone. Sometimes, we need the opposite. We need to just go in our bedrooms, shut the door and cry. And that is okay too. Be with your feelings. They are a part of you. I have a habit of using food to cover up my emotions, but lately, I have been feeling them and being one with them. Has it been pretty? NO! Has it been easy? NO! But I feel good about the fact that I am not abusing my body. Instead, I am taking care of it and loving it. Use a journal to express your emotions and get them out if you feel better being alone. Do something you love. Right now I am writing this blog because it is something I love and I needed a little me time. And there is nothing wrong with that.
So don't worry about the bad days. We all have them and they will come and go throughout your life. Be yourself and let yourself feel whatever bubbles up. It's a natural part of life. Listen to your inner wisdom. She wants and needs to be heard. Don't run from how you're feeling. It's usually there to teach you something. Just be love. All day long. And if you just can't, then feel what your feeling, let it go and move on. Tomorrow is another day.